Sunday, June 24, 2012

Do Big Boobs A Better Cosplayer Make?

Molly is a cosplayer. Molly needs your help buying herself new, bigger breasts. I think I'd like to help Molly another way by offering an alternate solution: quit cosplaying.

This may seem like an extreme solution, but it is as logical as buying a new pair of boobs. When looking at Molly's plea for donations to cover the cost of the procedure, several contradictions present themselves. "...I feel more secure and certain of my place in the world than I ever have before. That’s why I am able to finally come out and say this publicly: I want fake boobs." Acceptance of one's body is not usually followed by feelings of inadequacy, unless one is inclined to accept feeling dissatisfied. It is probably painfully obvious to everyone but Molly that this is most definitely a matter of self esteem. Accepting one's body is a lifelong battle for most women, one that rarely ends in total happiness with one's physique. There is no greater voice or opinion more frequently heard than the one in our own head. I believe her when she says she isn't doing this for anyone else; besides an encounter with a fairly biased casting director, I doubt many people have told her how she needs bigger breasts. And I'm certain no one has told her she needs bigger breasts to feel better about herself. That strongly held belief belongs solely to the person convincing themselves of the unnecessary procedure.

You don't need big tits to be bad-ass.
Everything from the depiction of women in comics to coveting her own mother's figure are named as contributing factors to her dissatisfaction. Strangely missing from her history with her body is cosplay. Where is the passage discussing the positive influence of cosplaying? The feeling of confidence when one embodies their fictional heroes, the sense of accomplishment when creating an accurate and admired creation? My theory is that these sentiments are missing because they aren't felt, or may be overshadowed by feelings of inadequacy. The very essence of cosplay is in creating illusion, bringing to life something that only exists in fantasy. But no one can create the grotesquely disproportionate drawings of Humberto Ramos. Powergirl's breasts are physically impossible. The broke back pose cannot be reproduced in real life. Is failing to live up to the unrealistic standard of these depictions effecting Molly's decision? I'd guess the answer would be yes. But this conundrum is not one shared by all cosplayers. I cannot speak for others, but in my experience, cosplaying can be a deeply rewarding ritual that is a unique way to share one's passion for a character or creation. It can boost one's confidence as well, in a way that only dressing as a warrior goddess can. When cosplay has the opposite effect it may be in the participant's best interests to not do it, and in Molly's case, I think she may be doing more damage to her self-esteem than good. At least that is the impression one gets by her lack of positive association. 

Cosplay only we smaller gals could do.
Molly takes a lighthearted approach to the subject of breast augmentation; she refers to it as her "Betterment Fund", adding a "boobs" category to her blog subjects, referring to herself as being part of the "itty bitty titty committee".  This tells me she may not be taking the subject as seriously as it deserves. Where is the research? Has she picked a doctor? Looked into the risks? Read countless testimonials from those that have gone under the knife? An afternoon spent reading through GoodbyeImplants.com may better inform Molly's decision. Hearing feedback from readers and other cosplayers encouraging her to accept her body may also effect her final decision. Being reminded that she is contributing to the greater societal problem all women face concerning body image by making this very public plea may make her think twice about taking donations. By rewarding contributers with the ability to choose her cosplay costumes post surgery, she's essentially giving up control of her own body. In so many words, "give me money so you can dress me up." There are a lot of girls out there like you, Molly. Some of them are still young, still anticipating the day when they will grow up to look like that ridiculous anime character they've drawn. Do you want to go to conventions with your newly augmented body showing her one more unrealistic depiction? Why not continue to cosplay as you are now, showing that girl what real confidence looks like? Showing others that no, you may not have breasts that look inflatable, but you still look and feel good anyway? I can promise Molly she'll be better for it and she'll have nothing to regret if she does. If you are reading this, I hope you will tell her, too. 

Molly is uncomfortable wearing padded bras. So is cancer survivor Jodi Jaecks.

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  1. Youre a dick you know that? Its not YOUR body, so why should you care? Its up to the person themselves whether they want to change or not! Its not your place as a complete stranger to tell her to quit cosplaying if she wants to habe boobs or not! I can say this because Im her friend. So get your head out of your ass and deal with the fact that she wants big boobs. And yes, the right curves accentuate a costume!

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    1. Here's a quote from Molly: "if you’re not happy with yourself, shouldn’t you aim to change?". I believe what Comic Book Candy is saying is that change should come from the inside: change your perspective first, and acceptance will follow. As an incredibly small chested fangirl I too suffered boob-envy for years, especially coming from a very large chested family. But how we perceive the world vastly changes your own opinions about ourselves, and I, just like every other small chested girl I knew, grew out of my phase of wanting fake tits - And I thank the gods every day that I didn't go through with it!! Fake boobs are what separate the confident women from the disillusioned girls, and it took growth and maturity for me to really believe that. And I believe Molly is fueling a detrimental idea that we need to desperately move away from: that fake boobs will solve all our problems. I don't want my little sister who is ten years younger than me, or my niece or any other young female to continue to think boobs make the woman. I want them to be surrounded by small chested women who love their bodies! I know it's not easy, and we all have our own demons to deal with, but progress is the word!!

      Fake boobs don't make the girl a woman, only her confidence and love of her own natural body can do that.

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    2. Gay man speaking. It's a temporary band-aid for a permanent wound.

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    3. Anon - Your comment wins the thread.

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    4. @kimchicutie1023. I guess you're saying it's ok to be superficial and take risks including death (that is one of the risks to even something so routine as a boob job.) Wouldn't it be better to encourage her to have some confidence. Confidence goes a long way. If man were to ask for funds so he could get steroids and bulk up so he can look like superheroe would you say that would be fine beacuase it's his body? In comic some comic books just about every female has big boobs and every guy looks like a bodybuilder even old men and men in wheelchairs. I can understand someone wanting to change something physical about themselves that they can't achieve through diets or working out but at this rate it seems like everybody will be getting nose jobs, hairplugs or boob jobs. I myself hope that she knows that it doesn't matter to me if someone has big or small breasts her health and happiness would mean more and if she thinks she needs bigger boobs to be happy she may need some therapy or a different set of friends.

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  3. Don't be a douche.

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  4. Jealous much that some girls are blessed with nice curves???? I think so!

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  5. I don't know who you are, but you have real place to wright this type of trash about a friend of mine. This is trash, as is your opinion, due to the fact that it's not your body. Do I agree with her choice? It really doesn't matter what my opinion is; not my body either, and you not even knowing her have even less of a right to voice your views on what she should do with her body, none the less in a public forum type setting!!! I mean, how lame is your life that you need to go around on the internet and bad mouth people you don't even know? get a job, or a hobby, that doesn't involve being a stalker with no concept of appropriate social interaction.

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    1. no real place***

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    2. Going against the grain here...BINGO, Candy, and well-said in the process. This girl Molly needs a shrink, not a boob job.

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    3. "none the less in a public forum type setting" - Molly posted in a public forum type setting, opening this "personal decision" up to the public. If it was so personal, she wouldn't have blogged about it. And if it was a seriously thought out decision she wouldn't be begging for money, she would have saved over the years. And if she was mature, she wouldn't be calling it her "betterment fund".

      Molly is so young, she needs mature women like Megan who are willing to stand up and say "YOU'RE GORGEOUS, DON'T CHANGE!" And she needs less of you "friends" who are unabashedly supporting her "betterment". Grow up and tell her she's beautiful. Anyone who presses that button to donate are only reaffirming her idea that she NEEDS fake boobs to feel confident. If she gets enough replies saying "no don't!! you're perfect and I would feel less confident in MYSELF if YOU get fake boobs!!" maybe she will decide to stay perfect.

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  6. Although I question what place it is of yours to write an article denouncing her decision and making it seem like something she thought up over night, its been written and now is to be responded too.

    I find it interesting that you assume that this is totally disempowering to Molly. She makes it clear that she's been thinking about it for a while and has relayed a verdict that this is what she wants. Its something that she's come to the realization that it will make her feel more comfortable with her body. There's a huge taboo around breast implants and how they relate to femininity and feminism. While large breasts equaling feminine and attractive is something that is perpetuated by a society dictated by men, it is Molly's choice to do what she feels will bring her into her own and a further state of confidence. If she had said "I want to shave my head. It will make me feel much more like how I feel inside." or something similarly non-conformist, this probably wouldn't have warranted pause for this response article to be written. But because the actions that she's chosen to take are associated with oppression and conforming to a negative stereotype in both geek and traditional feminist culture, this is suddenly an issue meant to be written on and brought to the masses.


    Its not something that is done based SOLELY for cosplay, but instead something that will help benefit her esteem in the long run. I think she just happened to bring up how implants would benefit her confidence in costuming since her article was posted on her costuming blog. Its entirely her choice if she wants to give someone input on what costumes she should make for donating to her fund.

    I don't feel like this is something that's suddenly going to make all the younger cosplayers go "WELL, I GUESS I HAVE TO GET BREAST IMPLANTS TOO." because those younger girls have the exact same ability to criticize and examine as we do. There's an assumption that anyone new to the hobby will conform to this mentality of "I MUST LOOK EXACTLY LIKE COMIC BOOK HEROES, I MUST ALTER MYSELF IN EVERY WAY." and that's simply not how most of us cosplay gals think. I got into cosplaying at age 14 and was perfectly capable of realizing that these things aren't something to be strived for. Molly isn't asking to look like Powergirl, as she puts it she "I want breasts so I can finally feel womanly and sexy, instead of awkward and strangely shaped." (could be read that she simply wants to fill out her shape to her own PERSONAL ideal of beauty.)

    You ask "Why not continue to cosplay as you are now, showing that girl what real confidence looks like?". Isn't it contradictory to say that you can't be confident or a good 'role model' if you have implants? Isn't it contradictory to say to your followers that "HEY. SOCIETY TOLD HER THAT SHE SHOULD GET IMPLANTS. WE SHOULD SAY THAT SHE SHOULDN'T. WE SHOULD CHANGE HER MIND." when you talk of feeling comfortable as yourself?

    Molly's doing what she feels will make her feel comfortable and confident and, in my opinion, I don't feel that its the internet's place to harass someone they've never met and try to change their stance on a decision that they're making to better themselves.

    Regards
    -Jess

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    1. I think there are more than enough voices in society encouraging women to get breast implants. Molly did ask for contributions to cover the procedure, which does open herself up to the opinions of others.

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    2. "harass" her? did comic book candy send her emails? did candy call her repeatedly? I must have missed that part of the article (sarcasm). You should look up the word harass in the dictionary, seriously.

      Love comes from within, and no amount of silicone will change that. Women have come SO far, it's no surprise that one confident woman wants to influence the way the rest of her gender thinks about augmentation - I know I do! In an industry where we are surrounded by big boobs, skinny waists, and perfect bodies, we women NEED to rally to each others sides to reiterate how beautiful we are in our own natural skin. Let's support each other in a better way, not just saying "yeah, you go girl, get those fake boobs and feel good about yourself" - instead we should be saying "you're beautiful! you don't need change! change the way you see yourself and the rest will follow."

      And I'm sorry but I do believe that breast augmentation does disempower the woman. From that day forth every time she looks in the mirror to see what she believes is the perfect version of herself, she will be reminded that it's fake, it's NOT her. And that will continue to disempower her by stripping more confidence from her. The women I know who have undergone this procedure did it for the exact same reason Molly wants it. And you know what? It worked - but it didn't stop. It NEVER stops. You will continue to see more and more things you need to "change" until there's nothing real left, you cease to exist.

      Personally, I think we would all be a lot happier by convincing ourselves we're goddesses as is. Because we are.

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  8. I hear lots of people getting angry and defensive over Molly's case, but as she placed it up on the internet, isn't it only fair that you get a voice as well? Yes, you believe she's being self-conscious and needs help with her body image, but I can't really see people getting breast augmentations without at least a hint of self-consciousness.

    Also, while you may not know Molly, I'm sure everyone here has said something about another person and had an opinion on a total stranger. That being said, how can anyone else tell you what to and what not to voice?

    My opinion? Keep talking. :)

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  9. This article is ridiculously trashy and to be quite honest will probably result in me not coming here anymore.

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    1. I don't understand what you find is trashy about it. because women in this industry deal with this every day - it's real.

      This is one of the most honest, and REAL blog posts comic book candy has done. And I wish more would speak out against breast augmentation. -spoken from a small chested comic book store manager.

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  10. I agree with you. Even if I didn't, you are allowed to have an opinion. And I DON'T appreciate friends of Molly trying to stand up for her by trashing you. They can do it without calling you a bitch or a dick. Its her body, her decision, but hey. You're beautiful if you believe it, not because someone tells you you are. Who says, right?

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  11. I will write a proper response later, but I just wanted to make it clear that I never asked my friends/fans to defend me in this manner. All I did was link this article and said it was "interesting", so any opinions posted here are not condoned by me. -Molly

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  12. While I appreciate the sentiment of trying to 'help' someone that you perceive as having self confidence issues, I would suggest first talking to the person you are targeting with your sympathy/scorn.
    I agree with the 'not your body' comments, but more to the point, it's not your mind. You don't know WHY she's come to this conclusion, based on a single blog post, and you don't get to decide that she's in the wrong for it.
    If you were a friend, a family member, if you had even received some form of spam from her, asking for your donations towards her boob job, I could see writing this bit of opinionated but shallow-minded trash, but your opinion was neither asked for nor required.
    The blog post was intended for those who follow her cosplay pictures, and enjoy seeing what she does and how she looks doing it. If she suddenly sprouted breasts overnight with no explanation, she would have been called out for it, and felt obligated to make a post after the fact. Her writing that post is not a call for you to go to arms to defend small chested women. It isn't an attack on a body type. Consider how long she has spent celebrating that very body type, cosplaying that way. And if she is so lacking in self confidence, then she is twice as brave for talking about it and putting those images of herself out there, for dressing up and garnering attention. It's sad that it comes from people such as yourself, who have accepted their bodies for what they are, and therefore must show disdain for anyone who does not embrace their own body type equally. Remember that, like your religion, like the party you vote for, like the moral choices put before any person, what is right for you may not be right for the person next to you. But it isn't wrong of her to seek to improve herself in areas that she feels lacking in. That's her perception, and her prerogative.
    As far as I'm concerned the worst of this was the condescension in your tonality. If the post had been generalized, or if you had said, I appreciate Molly as she is now, if you had shown one tiny bit of respect for her as a person, instead of as a symbol for the type of person that you see yourself as, you wouldn't be getting comments like this. And, likely, you would be receiving a lot more respect, yourself, for your opinions.

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  13. People will do whatever they want, Molly probably is beautiful without her desired cup size, but thats not what SHE believes, so LET her ask for money for something she wants. You don't have to donate, you don't have to justify whether or not its right or wrong. She isn't you. She explains truthfully what she wants, its not a scam or anything, so I guess I'm unsure why this article was written? I'm happy to see you encouraging smaller chested women. I really do, seeing as I am one of them...but that could have been written without mentioning a girl you don't know. I also realize that's not the entirety of the article, just a snippet :) For the whole cosplay thing, cosplay is about illusion IMO. If you don't have it, you create it. We wear wigs for crazy hair color, we get contacts to make our eyes appear more animated, we paint our skin a different color, we bind, we pad, we do many things out of the ordinary to accomplish a more convincing illusion of the character irl. If Molly wants bigger breasts and ALSO sees it as a benefit of cosplaying something better, let her. If it makes her happy, then let her have that. Its not harming anyone. :)

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  14. I never called this candy lady anything, other than someone who needs better things to do with her life, and develop better social skills.

    I understand having an opinion, but tho make demeaning statements about her, her character, and her self esteem, while not knowing her to base her premise on, is really pushing the line between opinion and libel (written defamation).

    Let me quote a few things from this,"Everything from the depiction of women in comics to coveting her own mother's figure are named as contributing factors to her dissatisfaction. Strangely missing from her history with her body is cosplay. Where is the passage discussing the positive influence of cosplaying? The feeling of confidence when one embodies their fictional heroes, the sense of accomplishment when creating an accurate and admired creation? My theory is that these sentiments are missing because they aren't felt, or may be overshadowed by feelings of inadequacy. The very essence of cosplay is in creating illusion, bringing to life something that only exists in fantasy."
    "Molly takes a lighthearted approach to the subject of breast augmentation; she refers to it as her "Betterment Fund", adding a "boobs" category to her blog subjects, referring to herself as being part of the "itty bitty titty committee". This tells me she may not be taking the subject as seriously as it deserves. Where is the research? Has she picked a doctor? Looked into the risks? Read countless testimonials from those that have gone under the knife? An afternoon spent reading through GoodbyeImplants.com may better inform Molly's decision. Hearing feedback from readers and other cosplayers encouraging her to accept her body may also effect her final decision. Being reminded that she is contributing to the greater societal problem all women face concerning body image by making this very public plea may make her think twice about taking donations. By rewarding contributers with the ability to choose her cosplay costumes post surgery, she's essentially giving up control of her own body. In so many words, "give me money so you can dress me up." There are a lot of girls out there like you, Molly. Some of them are still young, still anticipating the day when they will grow up to look like that ridiculous anime character they've drawn. Do you want to go to conventions with your newly augmented body showing her one more unrealistic depiction? Why not continue to cosplay as you are now, showing that girl what real confidence looks like? Showing others that no, you may not have breasts that look inflatable, but you still look and feel good anyway? I can promise Molly she'll be better for it and she'll have nothing to regret if she does."

    "Acceptance of one's body is not usually followed by feelings of inadequacy, unless one is inclined to accept feeling dissatisfied. It is probably painfully obvious to everyone but Molly that this is most definitely a matter of self esteem."

    granted, it is dangerous, but that's the risk SHE has to decide if she wants to make, and SHE has to deal with the after math if it go's bad. I understand that you all look at it from the stand point of,"what example are you setting?" point of view, but this isn't the candy dictatorship. Just because you don't like that she want's to do this doesn't mean you should feel so compelled to tell her how she should treat her body. She's not telling you how to live your life; I'd stop telling others how to live theirs, your not God, and you have no right to judge. If you where actually concerned about her, you would have contacted her personally about this issue rather than writing a very demeaning blog.

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    1. The request for financial support to do the procedure does open it up to a public forum. That's not a bad thing either, it creates a greater discussion amongst others. Also, I did contact Molly and sent her a link as well.

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    2. i like how you just reposted everything candy said, thanks for the reiteration, though I don't think that helps whatever your point is.

      all mature women have a duty to tell younger less mature females that breast augmentation isn't the answer. loving yourself is. i'm thankful that Molly made such a personal matter a public spotlight because it shows mature women that the younger females NEED us to help them find better ways to feel confident. I'm thankful for Candy's response, and hope that it sways other young girls away from the idea that fake is better.

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    3. no, you didn't contact her about this before you chose to post this blog, I know because she said she doesn't know you, and never talked to you on the post she linked this blog to as well as 2 other friends. Had you never written this slanderous trash, I would have never even known she wanted this procedure. If she wants to take donations for it, then that's her choice. people ask for donations for all kinds of stuff, but that doesn't mean you should verbally attack her for actually thinking that idea up. it's better than going and being a stripper to get the money, or any other number of things she could do if she wanted. I don't think she really needs to be told she's beautiful or any of that. I'm sure she knows that there are lots of people that are attracted to her... she has over 2K friends on FB and is basically famous, at least in the cosplay subculture. I look at this like I look at one of my transgender relative's situation. I don't particularly agree with it, I don't think it's natural, but I do support the right to chose what you do with your own body. if my relative feels more comfortable being the opposite gender than they where born, then that's there deal. I don't need to waist my time and energy fretting over other peoples lives. same with molly. if she feels like she will be happier with larger ta-ta's to match her child bearing hips, then that's her deal, and it's nothing I need to waist time out of my day tripping on, and neither should you, because it's just being nosy, rude, and your promoting gossip. some one else said that this has actually increased the donations to her fund as well, so this totally back fired. I quoted most her post, because I was showing the places where there was boarder line slander, so maybe you should read up on law, so you can see why I chose to quote those sections. within all that there where several character attacks and at least one inference of her being -like- a prostitute because she is offering dress ups for donations, you didn't say it, but the way you put it was totally intended to attack her character as if there is a similar manner between what she offered and prostitution, and that is uncalled for, and honestly I think Mrs. Molly could easily find a lawyer who would love to get her her boob job done at Candy's expense, but I'm thinking Molly probably won't. I would if I where her. if you had written this type of trash about me, I'd have you in court faster than 9.8 m/s^2 on written slander and cyberstalking, but that's because I am kinda an ass hole, I don't take kindly to this type of behavior, and I got college debt to pay off.

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    4. Anon - I never said I contacted Molly to ask permission to post my blog. Just that I brought it to her attention (via twitter, via a comment on her original post). Claims of slander (or actually libel, since it is written ) and cyberstalking are kind of laughable. It would possibly be the first case in history where telling someone to accept and love themselves is considered defamation :)

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    5. I said libel before, but I decided to be lazy in my response and called it slander, because it's just easier and everyone knows what it means. as for cyberstalking, yes, you had to have gone threw her pages hunting for things to use to support the base of you premise. as for telling her to accept and love herself, that seems quite disingenuous, due to the fact that you made so many character attacks in the same blog. it's like saying,"here, let me help you up off the ground so I can push you down that hill over there." it's fake. you only did it to sugar coat and try to come off as if you where not being so critical of her, and her behavior.

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    6. i'm not surprised this is coming from a man... no offense but women know a little more about womens bodies and being supportive in a world run by men...

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    7. Thomas S. - Your comments are really off topic and not respectful to others. Hence the deletion.

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  15. why care so much about another person's life, much less body? Just a peculiar observation.

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  16. Molly is a friend of mine, a fellow cosplayer, and a fellow small busted girl. i think your article jumps to too many conclusions. you automatically assmue she has self esteem issues just because she wants a bigger bust? that's presumptuous... I don't have self esteem issues, but i would get breast augmentation if i had the money to do so. it's simply a modification. would you say people who want a tattoo or a new piercing have problems with self esteem? doubtful, but really that's all this is and you judging someone you don't know for their own decisions makes you no better than that old bitty at the market who turns her nose up at the cash attendant with the lip ring

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  17. You are not Molly nor are you her mother! She wants to do this and she has been wanting to for YEARS and it was not a decision she just woke up with and posted about it. I know that this is your blog and you have every right to say that is your opinion. Please for the love of God, don't talk shit about someone that you don't even know! That just makes you look bad and low! If you had a problem about her having this done, why didn't you actually contact her to ask her about it? Oh wait you don't want to confront the issue of the actual person, so you'll just write things about someone you don't even know! This sounds a lot like high school, where one person is jealous of someone. They are to afraid to go up to them and talk to them so there for they spread lies and rumors about them.
    Basically Don't talk shit about someone you don't even know, because it is high school.

    Btw your title sounds horrid as it doesn't even make sense! Sounds like Google Translated it for you!

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    1. If I were her mother I'd be more concerned with what donators GET in return for their money! It's practically prostitution when you ASK for MONEY in RETURN for PICTURES of yourself in your new fake books. It's obvious this girl is way to young to make this decision, or she would be taking a more private route.

      Oh and the title is a play on renaissance / medieval / Elizabethan speak - ever read a thor comic?

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  18. To say she should quit cosplaying, its not like she's the first person to ever want implants for cosplaying. If it makes her happy, it makes her happy. Everyone, including you, are entitled to opinions, but her opinion is that it would make her happier and what ever motive that opinion spawns out of is her business. If you know the cosplay community, its full of people who go through great lengths both natural, dangerous, and medically to get what they want physically and that's their choice.

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  19. WOW.

    Just cause you feel a certain way doesn't mean you have to throw it everybody's face.

    And bringing a cancer survivor in to this? You are absolutely disgusting.

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    1. I think showing another person's triumph and acceptance of their body is very motivating to anyone with body issues.

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    2. begging people for money to get fake tits is way more disgusting than discussing how cancer survivors feel in regards to having lost theirs. It's important to remember what struggles our fellow man meet - and maybe if Molly reads what this cancer survivor has gone through she might rethink her opinion of herself.

      this is such a touchy topic - but self-confidence is something all people struggle with. Supporting each other is important, and we're talking about beautiful women who should feel good about themselves!

      Fake implants won't make the girl feel like a woman. Only confidence and love of oneself will!

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  20. I think you completely misinterpreted Molly's original post regarding augmentation. Fact of the matter is, as someone who went to school with her, I always thought she was a very confident young woman. I didn't understand that she carried this mental burden by herself for so long. Honestly, I still feel really badly thay I didn't catch on and I didn't give her the support she needs. She has thought this through, she's been thinking about this for years. Do I think Molly is one of the sexiest women I've ever had the privilage to know? Yes I do, and it is for more than her body, she's a very smart and sweet girl. But who are any of us to argue with her happiness just because she desires surgery? She deserves our support, not condemnation.

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  21. Molly does need support- someone to tell her she's beautiful as she is and doesn't need to beg strangers for a better body. Megan brings up the important point of how many of these surgeries are botched and how much research needs to go into it. It's not a flippant decision to make because you want to play dress up.

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  22. I think taking your time to write this long of a thread about another girl's life choice, shows that YOU have low self-esteem. I'm against breast implants myself except for reconstruction purposes,cosmetically it's mutilating your body forever and you will need to continue doing maintenance on them over the years because of your vanity but still, it's that vain person's choice to do that to themselves. It had nothing to do with you nor effect you in anyway so,what do you hope to accomplish with this?Freedom of speech is fine but this takes it a bit too far and I especially don't appreciate one of my favorite hobbies being put in a negative light just because of this girl.

    All women are insecure about their bodies, myself included,it is a life-long struggle and comparing ourselves to impossibly proportioned animated women don't make us feel better but cosplaying them can be enjoyable if you can accept that those proportions are unrealistic but you being that woman (or man) makes them real and awesome. You don't have to have a perfect figure to show off a character you admire and I have many friends that passionately do so very well.I've been cosplaying for almost 10 years and I have no intention of giving it up even after I pass 30 years old. It's fun and allows me to step out of my comfort zone and be confident and have a great time with my friends. Women that take it to unnecessary physical extremes paint a bad light on the hobby itself but again it's their choice..

    Anyway just wanted to give my take on this, I agree with some of your opinions regarding women but I still don't believe this much hate towards this girl was necessary and you should take a long look at yourself in the mirror before judging another so harshly and publicly. It makes you look worse than her..

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    1. I would definitely agree, cosplay can be very rewarding. I only used the example of quitting as another extreme alternative to Molly's greater issues.

      The reason this is a blog post and say, not a personal email to Molly is because again, she asked for donations and that opens her up to the opinions of others. I hoped to offer an alternative (positive) opinion, and never intended to be "hateful" though I don't know where in my post I say anything remotely negative about this person unless you consider being encouraged to do more research to be harsh.

      It's also worth discussing publicly as Molly is not the only person dealing with these issues. Many women consider breast augmentation for one reason or another, and it's not something to be taken lightly.

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  23. You do realize you fueled a fire which will cause everyone to donate to the boob fund and she will make out with a ton of money based on the fact that other women are angry. You do realize essentially because of you, Molly is going to have new boobs.

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    1. Plenty of women get new breasts without being privately funded. I don't think the attention this garners will have an effect one way or the other. But at least she will hear a few more voices amongst the crowd giving her support if she decides not to.

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    2. all those "friends" of molly's were obviously going to donate regardless of this blog.

      all women have a DUTY to try and dissuade young females from altering their beauty by augmentation. surgery is dangerous, and silicone does not equal confidence. maybe Molly needs more real friends who will convince her that surgery is not the answer to feeling good about yourself.

      Molly uses "Exercise" as an example of another thing she changes to feel good about herself. Considering Exercise is needed to literally live a long and healthy life, I don't think this girl understands there is a DIFFERENCE. Someone needs to seriously TALK to this girl. And the fact she calls it the betterment fund enrages me. Silicone does not make you "better". Only YOU can make YOU better - not a needle, not surgery, not a man, not liquor, not piercings, not a diet, not photoshop, not skinny jeans...

      Change the way you see yourself.
      Confidence will follow.

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  24. Hey: I actually know Molly and one thing I can say is that she didn't just think this up overnight. She puts a lot of time and thought into everything she says/does - this included.

    I wish you'd taken the opportunity to contact Molly to have an actual conversation about this topic, as opposed to just posting what could be viewed as a "mean girl" response to her blog post. (Could be, as I've met you, and have a hard time believing that was the intent behind your thoughts.) Dialog would have been so much more constructive than the flame war which is likely going to ensue because of this...

    Anyhow. Interesting article.
    K

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    1. Kate,
      Thanks for the well worded response! I did contact Molly with a comment of support, and sent her the link as well. I believe a public discussion of this topic would benefit more people, including Molly. It is however disapointing to see so many supporters consider my opinions to be negative or inflammatory. Frankly if I made a plea to friends and strangers to support my plastic surgery, I'd hope to get more responses from people telling me to be happy with what I've got! "Go for it, they'll make you feel better" isn't exactly a compliment.

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    2. Megan,
      Want to clarify: I think that you should have contacted Molly before publishing this blog post. (But, hindsight is 20/20 - god knows I've written a lot of stuff I should have taken more care with prior to publication, so yanno... it happens.) I have to admit that the way you worded your post made me feel defensive for my friend - as if you were passing judgement on her choices.

      And, from what I know of you (which isn't a lot, given) I really don't think that you wanted to put forth a hyperbolic judge-y message, I believe you genuinely want to have a conversation about this topic. Which I support.

      I would love to see you reach out to her now to talk about this and (maybe) write a follow-up about the conversation you have. I think that you'll be surprised at the thought and care that Molly has put into her (personal) decision.

      I think that you're right (in a sense) that by asking for donations to support her goal that she's opened the topic up to public criticism, but I just think that there was an opportunity you missed here by writing this post in the way you did... This could have been a really relevant and community changing/bonding moment and now I'm afraid you're just gonna be flamed into oblivion by Molly's fans (which are considerable in number.)

      (Even though, it should be said, Molly wouldn't want her fans to blast you with icky innerwebz hate... that's not her style.)

      Regarding body modification via breast augmentation, it's not that much different than getting tattoos or piercings, IMHO. If -after very careful consideration, cause that shit is permanent- that's what you want to do and it makes you feel confident, sexy and awesome by doing so - do it. It's not my place to judge your choices.

      Though I will make fun of you (to your face) if you get a tramp stamp or porn star boobies.

      Please excuse me, I need to post a plea on my blog to fund finishing the Doctor Who tattoo on my back... ;P

      (Kidding! Or, am I?)

      Take it easy and hang in.

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  25. What gives ANYONE the right to offer an opinion on ANYONE else? If a person chooses to dress a certain way, or add jewelry, implants, tattoos etc. to their bodies they are the only person to whom it matters. Keep your mouth shut! You know who is interested on your views about society, religion, politics and any other subject?? You. Nobody else. I'll let you live your life however you want. I expect the same in return.

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    1. obviously people are interested in her views, that's why she has followers, that's why she blogs.

      calm down killer, women need to support each other by spreading good ideals - the fact that this girl is beautiful and doesn't need augmentation is a fact. Candy is shedding light on a tough subject, but an important subject nonetheless. The last thing a confident empowered woman wants to see is a younger less-empowered girl considering adding fake implants to "feel better about herself". If enough people say to her "you don't need implants! you're gorgeous!!!" maybe she won't feel like she needs them anymore!

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    2. oh and just one more thing: when getting tattoos and piercings, you don't undergo anesthetic. or, you know, surgery.

      Kind of different.

      When I had a bad piercing I took it out. What do you do when you get bad fake boobs??? Can't just take them out! You undergo severe pain! And more surgery!! Wake up.

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    3. So basically you're against expressing opinions and the right to free speech. NEWS FLASH: You're giving your opinion right now! As soon as you it the publish button in fact. If you whole heartily believe in what you just posted then maybe next time you should keep your comments in your pocket.

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    4. Decontaminating: I think you were talking to me about tattoos/piercings. So let me respond.

      Do you have any tattoos? I have five and they all hurt like a bitch, and took a much longer time to heal than plastic surgery does. (My cousin had a boob job and has informed me -for purposes of this response- that she was feeling pretty okay 48 hours after the surgery & was completely healed in six weeks. My last tattoo took THREE MONTHS to completely heal.)

      Not to mention (but I will) that if you want to get a tattoo REMOVED it will cost you nearly as much as a boob job and hurt like a mo-fo... And, yes you'll have to undergo anesthetic to get that tat of a dolphin playing with the Grateful Dead dancing bears removed from your lower back, honey... C'est ze troof.

      Piercings are more permanent than you are giving credit for. Example: My seventeen year old god daughter decided to get two large gauge piercings in her ears when she was a freshman in high school. Now as a senior, she doesn't like them anymore and wants to take them out. Guess how long it's gonna take her ears to return to normal?

      Um... they never will. The hole *might* get smaller, but will never completely go away.

      If you ask me, both tattoos and piercings are pretty damn permanent.

      Regardless -- the technical differences between plastic surgery and other types of body modification are neither here nor there, because my point was -simply- that all are personal choices up to the individual. And, we should not be judgmental of the choices of others, lest we be judged in return.

      Got it?

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    5. Let me clarify: I'm not judging. I'm an empowered, confident woman who gets sad when she hears a younger female looking toward surgery to "improve" her looks. I would be the LAST person in the world to judge, considering I too was young, and had a false idea that I too needed implants.

      Feeling good about yourself is hard in this glamified world, especially in this industry with "perfectly" drawn women. What we perceive as the perfect body needs to change, and I prefer to pass on to other women that they are Perfect already! I find that tattoos and piercings are a fun way to express yourself! Whereas with breast augmentation the only thing you are expressing is that you believe that your worth is tied to your breast size, and again that's sad to me. I have struggled in my youth with feeling inadequate due to my lack of bounce, but through self exploration and growth I look back and laugh at how young I was. What was I thinking!?! I'm so happy I never went through with it, because I'm beautiful.

      And as I've said in other replies (because this is a very important subject that NEEDS discussion) Every time Molly looks in the mirror she will see her "perfect" version of herself, but also a constant reminder that it took money, surgery, pain and silicone to achieve this, and will then be constantly looking to the next big improvement that needs made.

      What all young girls need is a mature woman who has it all together (but still a small chest, lol) to tell her that you WILL feel better about yourself! You WILL see yourself as the Goddess you are! And you can do this WITHOUT the aid of surgery or anything else! You just have to change your own perception. And maybe Molly will realize that she is gorgeous and perfect and that fake boobs will only cheapen the beauty she was blessed with. I feel that women like Megan need to be there to tell her that, since obviously she is surrounded by friends who don't.

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  26. I support any woman's choice to augment their breasts, for whatever reason. Seeking validation from the Internet, and asking for donations, shows immaturity.

    If you are seriously considering donating, please look into worthwhile charities instead, ones that do some good in our world.

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  27. I just want to say to EVERYONE who has replied negatively toward this blog...

    My favorite cosplayers are: the over-weight girls dressed as wonder woman - or the super skinny boys dressed as thor - or the shorty dressed as galactus.

    That's what Cosplaying is all about! Pretending for a moment in time we are who we idolize, the heroes who make us want to be a better person - not want to LOOK like a better specimen.

    If we can be happy in our own skin, in our own natural bodies, the world will be a more beautiful place. End the fake additions - love yourself. It's not always easy, but that's what we really need to strive for.

    Silicone does not equal confidence.

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  28. Three things;
    1) I applaud you for this response
    2) Wanting a boob job? That's one thing. Announcing it to the internet, and telling the world to pay for it, (while trying to sell it as "a good cause") is another thing..
    3) To those who would donate? You're idiots. Yes, Idiots.

    bullet-point 3 is a bold statement, I know. It's a large, sweeping statement...And I generally am against making those kinds of statements..but It's one I'll stand by. Here's why;

    You're donating to a woman with low-self-esteem, so she can get bigger boobs, so she can dress up more convincingly as fictional characters. In return, she'll trade you pictures of herself in tiny, barely-there outfits, so you can do whatever creepy things you do with bought pictures of internet girls.

    That's what your money is going towards.

    If you think THAT is a "good" cause, you're an idiot. Once again, I'll stand by that. Those that donate might try and use the argument "But I'm a good friend, and helping her out!".....Bullshit. A good friend is a person who isn't afraid to tell you something you don't want to hear. You're not helping anyone out by funding this.

    Do you really want to be a good person, and help people?

    Here's some links;

    Kids who don't give a shit about comic-books or boob-jobs or vanity, they just want to live to see tomorrow
    http://keepachildalive.org/

    Help save an animal's life, and brings awareness to animal cruelty..They also don't give a shit about cosplaying, sorry.
    http://www.aspca.org/

    Help a child find their way to Mom and Dad..They care more about that than boob-jobs, trust me.
    http://www.childfindofamerica.org/

    do you see a common vein in what I listed? All of the above don't give a crap about boob-jobs. If you want to make the world a better place and donate to "a good cause," (molly's words, not mine) be aware that vanity and self-image do not fall under those categories.

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    1. Thanks for posting links to these wonderful organizations. However, I do think Molly is deserving of some kind words of encouragement to love herself. Donate some karma to her while you donate to the ASPCA!

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  29. Does anyone else notice the irony here?

    "Girl begs world to pay for boob job on a blog about self-betterment."

    It's like an Onion headline...Christ.

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  30. Your article raises some great points and it seems the only people getting pissed are Molly's friends that she's sent here in droves via twitter and facebook. Honestly, you spent half the article being really complimentary and encouraging of Molly herself, so I don't understand the immediate hate. It just goes to show they didn't read the full article, or skimmed over to focus on parts they could react to offensively.

    The only problem I have here is the asking to donate bit. Do what you want with your body, but it's definitely odd that someone is begging for funds for implants. It's incredibly self-centered and petty. If this girl is so internet famous shouldn't she be directing her 'followers' to something better than pay for her 'cosplay accessory'? How about feeding the hungry? Donating to the red cross? A cancer association? Helping out with the Malaria issues in Africa? No, this girl's quest for breasts is apparently more important. How entitled. If you want new boobs pay for them yourself, don't make nerds you only associate with when you have to fund them so they can get pictures of the new merchandise. Ugh.

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  31. I would like to express two things, as I still haven't had time to sit down and write an article in response:

    I do not condone my friends/fans being rude. Stop white knighting, you guys.

    I only opened up donations after I received many emails asking how people could donate. I was uncomfortable with it, but I was pushed by several people to go for it. I would MUCH rather people donate to the ASPCA or something to that effect! But if they have money and want to help me out, that's their prerogative. Any of me saying it's a "good cause" is purely me being facetious. I understand this is a vain undertaking.

    However, I strive to document the entire process so people can be well informed about it. I'm not saying other ladies should get breast implants - I think small boobs are unbelievably sexy! Just not on ME.

    I have a 29/30" waist and 43" hips. I feel grossly disproportional. I want to do this so when I look in the mirror I finally see the me I want to be. Because right now? There's nothing. Flat as a board. It makes me miserable. I don't want to spend the rest of my life hating my body.

    In closing, I have no expectations for donations. If people want to, that's cool. But if they don't, that's cool too. I'm getting boobs one way or another :-)

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    1. You're a class act, McIsaac. =)

      Megan, I think you've handled yourself well in the face of all the negative comments, so that also makes YOU a class act.

      <3

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    2. I appreciate your response, Molly. In all honesty, I truly wanted to bring attention to your cause so you may hear some support from those that think you are beautiful the way you are. Our society has gotten to a point where women who DON'T want to go under the knife are seen as abnormal, and that is a problem. I didn't think that anything I said was negative towards you, and I apologize if you took any offense to it. I would love to talk further about the donation process. Getting breast implants is not uncommon these days, but accepting donations changes the conversation greatly.

      I am glad to have put up the post because it is definitely creating some meaningful discussion on the topic. I hope that you have received some positive feedback as a result, and not just from people that are fans of boobs.

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    3. I can completely relate to your wants Molly, as I too suffer from what society views as small boobs. I am smaller, so therefore cannot imagine what you are going through, we are all so very different (and thank the Gods for that!!). But if I may say you are beautiful, and a Goddess among ants. Your unique physique makes you exactly that: unique. And once you achieve your higher cup, haven't you then lost a little of yourself, of what makes you YOU? Won't you then bleed into the thousands of others who look like a playboy magazine, rather than a delicate flower, a snowflake of originality.

      You are perfect. And hey, you can always buy the fake plastic costume boobies for your cosplaying like the rest of us!! :)

      Say NO to silicone!!

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    4. I swear by "chicken cutlets" for cos-playing!

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  32. Hi guys,

    Friend of Molly's. Number 1...to all her other friends posting hateful stuff here...you're not helping. Wheaton's Law, Don't be a Dick.

    Here's my respectful position (which I recommend all of you choose to be constructive on your future comments...bad writing makes a point not.)

    I respect a woman's choice to do with her body what she will. I recommend as the article says, for Molly to do the serious research as it'll be a serious procedure. As a friend and as anyone would suggest.

    My first tattoo was a disaster because I went on emotion and bad research. The only thing wrong with this article is that it is directed at one person. That's my beef. Calling Molly out on the internet was wrong. Making this article a generalized concern for all women making this decision would have been better.

    I recommend a truce. This silly argument isn't making anyone come out clean. This should be a sisterhood, not a call out on other women.

    I have big boobs, but I've had 2 kids and they've become less than flattering because of making the (right)decision to breast feed my two amazing boys. I'd always wondered what it would be like to have two perfectly formed breasts. I'm not about to go out and get surgery, but if I could I would. Feeling comfortable with one's self and deciding to live with what ya got are two different things. Now, if Molly were to go crazy with the plastic surgery...I might, as a friend say "Lady, you're beautiful and I don't see what's wrong with you at all." But what's important here is that we ask her the same questions we ask ourselves. Will you be happy?

    Which brings me back to my tattoo. I've had to have it altered and the 2nd touch up artist did almost worse than the original. I use that as a reminder to stand up for all my future tattoos and make sure no one is going to fuck up my body again. My tats have pretty much been stellar since.

    So, in conclusion, this article makes some great points, but in the future...it's best to remember there's someone else on the other side of the computer screen that you have not met and have not conversed with. Good writing dictates to do your research and check your sources. Have a discussion with Molly before you defame her.

    May the Force be with You!
    Wendy

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    1. Thanks for your very even-handed response, Wendy. I did not create this post with the intention to defame Molly. I created the post about her and her very unique situation because I felt she could benefit from receiving support publicly, much like those that support her decision are able to donate. A generic "breast implants are bad" post would really be irrelevant to my blog, and frankly I would never write something like that. Maybe "loving yourself is awesome". But would Molly have seen that post the same way? Would her followers and fans and friends have reacted the same way? Difficult subjects benefit from real life examples. Molly's struggle is not unique but by making her decision public it does open up the conversation.

      It's interesting too how many use the tattoo metaphor. I think the biggest difference for me personally is that tattoos / piercings are a unique expression of your personality (or they strive to be). Getting breast implants is very much about conforming to societal norms of beauty. There is no "natural" state for tattoos / piercings that one is hoping to achieve by getting them.

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    2. That's a bingo, Candy...the core of this matter is all about conforming. Molly is saying one thing - "I'm doing my own thing." but she's actually conforming in the most basic manner possible. Not to mention dangerously. The only reason she feels she's "grossly disproportionate" is because of our current society's ideals of beauty...which change all the freakin' time. Look at the works of the masters of the Renaissance; their women are all thick in the hip and waist and pretty small-breasted. And they are GORGEOUS. That is much much much more natural of a shape than an hourglass figure. It just makes me sad that this young woman is so out of touch with real life that she thinks fake boobs are the answer. Fake boobs funded by random people, no less. SO sad.

      Oh, and there is a HUGE difference between a tattoo and a boob job. HUGE. Anyone trying to make a serious argument that they are even remotely similar is fooling themselves. Candy put it correctly - tattoos are unique, artistic expressions of your personality, while fake boobs are conforming to society's standards in such a base way it's disgusting.

      Whatever, get your boobs and post photos of yourself in skimpy outfits...if that's what makes you feel good about yourself, all I can do is shake my head.

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  33. I'll say this first. You know, if someone wants a boob job, power to them.

    It's the begging for donations for 'a good cause' that's irking. In fact, her entire blog is contradictory. She professes to be a feminist and preaches female empowerment and acceptance, yet cannot say the same for herself. She says she would never change if someone asked her to, yet it's obvious that she wants to change for entertainment purposes. She describes her relationships with her breasts as full of 'resentment and acceptance.' I don't buy it. Clearly she hasn't accepted her breasts. All her rhetoric couldn't mask her vanity.

    But I digress. Whatever happened to 'if you want something bad enough, you work hard for it?' She's willing to bust her ass at the gym to keep her knockout body, yet doesn't want to earn the money to fund her implants?

    What? Bills too high and cosplay too expensive to put aside money for one? That's too damn bad. Buy your own implants, woman.

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    1. Wow, resorting to name calling and fat shaming to a blogger who was brimming with compliments to Molly and encouraging her to love herself. What a mature and awesome person you are.

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    2. Just going to reply before deleting your post; it's the language that got your post deleted, not the unoriginal sentiment.

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    3. Then I'll clean it up for you.

      It's not brimming with compliments, random cowardly anonymous commenter, It's backhanded at best. The words are positive but the message is, "Molly is making the wrong decision." And anybody who feels that it's their place to tell somebody what they can and can't do to their body is out of line, in my opinion.

      To the author, I thought we were all grown ups, and I do apologize for my language but retain the sentiment. I hope you'll allow this comment to remain public.

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    4. "I thought we were all grown ups" says the lady who started out by posting that the blogger is probably fat and jealous, called her the 'c' word and degraded her by using the term feminist negatively. Right.

      Despite saying she thinks Molly is doing the wrong thing for her, she's still attempting to build up the view of how she looks now. Is that a bad thing? Is it so terrible that someone did a post encouraging Molly to look at herself again as positively as she can so she won't have to spend thousands of dollars augmenting what is naturally already stunning? Hm, the fact that people are getting mad that this blogger is simply shedding light on the comic book industry's misogynist idealized female bullshit by telling Molly she doesn't HAVE to conform because she's great the way she /is/ is kind of ridiculous.

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    5. I really don't think the issue is "she should/shouldn't get implants."

      I think the issue is the contradictory justification for it (I feel comfortable with who I am! I'm confident! I need implants!"), as well as the contradictory justification for asking for funds ("I don't want to, it makes me uncomfortable, but I'm doing it.")

      Just own up. She's selling herself as two different people...

      Person 1:
      "I'm confident about who I am, and would feel uncomfortable asking people to "donate" finds for my own personal decisions, as I'm trying to better myself"

      Person 2:
      "I'm grossly malformed and terribly unconfident, please, donate money to this good cause that will make me a better person."

      There really is very very VERY little paraphrasing here! Those are pretty close to actual comments made in her initial post and in her response.

      She's selling herself as a free-thinkiner and independent woman who has a solid stance on issues, but she's playing two completely different angles at once.

      It kind of smacks of trying to appeal to everyone, so everyone gives cash.

      Shady, insincere, a bit con-artist-y, and more than a little amoral.

      She needs to take a break from trying to get the internet to like her, and figure out who she is, and how to like herself, I'd say.

      Of course, as someone who resorts to calling another a "c**t" and then goes on to fat-shame, I'm guessing your more than likely a she-bully who wouldn't care about sincerity, or things that *really* need donations and are good causes (like cleft-pallete surgery for children or condom distribution in Africa).

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    6. Okay. So she said one thing to one person and one thing to another. That's not a crime, or a reason to single her out, and trivialize her personal feelings about her body. Molly the internet personality is also Molly the IRL woman. This article read like an attack on both.

      I'm sorry that I opened this can of worms. I think that this is one of those agree to disagree situations. You can argue for the potentially negative health issues that can arise from unnecessary surgery, but that's a risk that consenting adults take when making decisions about their lives and bodies.As somebody who has had minor cosmetic surgery and plans to get more, all I can speak from is personal experience, and that I don't think having plastic surgery is in any way shameful. After my procedure I gained confidence and felt better about myself, and I hope that everyone who chooses to enhance their appearance has such a positive end effect.

      And if Molly can get what she wants by being her charming self and having donations made until she can make a living doing what she loves, more power to her.

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    7. it's not a crime, you're right, but it shows readers like myself that she's just young and still trying to figure out herself. We've all been there, I know I have. But I'm more mature, wiser, and thankful I didn't go through with it when I was Molly's age.

      And some adults find it necessary to share their found wisdom with those that struggle with the same demons.

      We are all adults here, but maturity comes at it's own pace...

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  35. "I only opened up donations after I received many emails asking how people could donate. I was uncomfortable with it, but I was pushed by several people to go for it."

    exactly what the last poster was talking about...Own your actions. Christ. You want a go at self-betterment? Try standing up for what you say you believe in. This whole thing "makes you uncomfortable"? Then stop doing it. No one's holding a gun to your head. Try teaching girls to be strong, independent thinkers, who don't bend to the whim of the almighty dollar.

    Otherwise, stop crying a river...stop playing all angles.. and just shamelessly admit "I want your money for my boobs and have no problem taking it."

    Also...."I have a 29/30" waist and 43" hips. I feel grossly disproportional." That's your own self esteem issues, and no amount of donated money and surgery is going to fix that. Stop playing the sympathy angle, because you? You;re not "grossly disproportional."

    If you need a bit of reference, this is grossly disproportional;
    http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/4156385.stm

    My problem isn't with your surgery or your self-image..It's with the contradictory statements, the playing of all angles, and the portrayal that this is somehow a worthy cause to donate to.

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  36. WOW!!! more comments on this article than all your other ones put together. you should write about boobs more often.

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    1. I dunno, my last post on the Marvel Swimsuit Special has a lot more boobs in it, something tells me it was the content in this post that had people talking....

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  37. I think it's interesting that you chose Lisbeth Salander as an example of a badass woman with a smaller bust when in the second book in the series, she gets implants for much the same reason that Molly is looking to get them. If body modification would give her the body she wants, who are we to condemn her for doing so? Would you make the same assertions about a woman who was getting a breast reduction? At the end of the day, she may end up being fantastically happy with enhanced breasts. At the end of the day, even if it doesn't turn out exactly how she wants, it's her choice to make and she is the one who has to deal with the consequences, not us.

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    1. I think that makes Lisbeth an even more appropriate example! Like Lisbeth, Molly is equally attractive and kick-ass. I don't want to repeat myself as I've responded to many people with similar thoughts as your own, so I would recommend reading the follow up post that includes an interview with Molly if you are looking for further clarity on why I wrote this post in the first place:

      http://comicbookcandy.blogspot.com/2012/08/cosplay-and-crowdfunding-follow-up-with.html

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